Yes, the image is controversial and outside of our norm.
That was the magazine's intention. It wanted to grab our attention and sell magazines. If it used a headline or picture simply titled Attachment Parenting, the chances of anyone picking it up on the newsstands that wasn't already a follower of this method was slim to none. So, the marketing department did what it is paid to do. It went outside the box to sell magazines. It played on the fact that our society has turned the natural act of a nursing mother into something dirty. A woman's breast was originally created as a way of feeding her child NOT something sexual or to be paraded within the pages of Playboy.
All day I read Facebook status updates about how gross it was; how wrong; how THEY would NEVER want to be a mom like that.
Really? Because if people would stop letting the media pit us against each other, they might would realize that moms? Are just doing the best they can.
Just.Don't.Participate. Walk away from the drama and pot-stirring. If we chose to support each other instead of point fingers, there would be no dramatic, attention grabbing headlines.
I barely managed to breastfeed any of my kids for 3 months so the chances of me going 3 years or longer, is slim to none. I didn't co-sleep. I rocked and snuggled, but then put all 3 of my babies in their own bed, in their own room. I used disposable diapers on every little booty. Was that wrong? Did I break some unknown parenting rule?
I did what was right for me. Just like these moms are doing for them.
And for the people who have the ruffled feathers because the site of a nursing mother is disturbing? Why don't you focus your attention on things that are actually harmful to the kid? Such as..
- Incorrect installation of car seats Or not using a car seat at all
- Kids not even old enough to sit in the front seat being given energy drinks
- Toddlers drinking undiluted juice and worse soda.
- Babies sleeping with bottles in their mouth's all night.
- Parents dragging their kids to restaurants and stores at all hours of the night.
- When the relationship between friend and parent become so blurred that kids run the house.
- Kids roaming their neighborhoods or towns with zero supervision.
- the obvious lack of respect many tweens show for authority and adults.
Ok.. that list could probably go on for awhile. There are numerous annoyances I have so I'll just stop while I'm ahead.
The bottom line is parenting is hard. We don't need an us vs. them mentality. We're all doing what we can, the BEST we can. Stop judging and start supporting.
To answer Time's question.. Yes. I AM Mom Enough to simply walk away from this created debate and simply live and let live.