He's definitely a guy

I can no longer deny it.  I am officially a mother to a full-fledged teenage boy.  I've joked about it on twitter.  I've even written a few posts about it, but last night it became real. 

I knew it was bound to happen.  I mean, he's a normal kid.  Like most teenagers, his hormones.. they are a ragin'.   The first glimpse into my future were the super long showers he started taking.  We're talking 30 minutes plus.  It's not as if he's shaving or washing long, girly hair. No conditioner needs to soak in.   There is only so much body to wash in there and we al know what he was really doing. 

It's one thing to assume, but it's quite another to have it staring at you as an adult website on an ipod touch 4 inch screen.

That's right, peeps.  My kid looked at porn.   And I know this "normal", that every guy does it, yada yada.  But I wanted to live in my bubble just a little bit longer and hope that he wasn't there yet.  That although his birth certificate said he was 14 yrs old, that he was still actually my baby.  Or at least a small kid.  Not this semi-grown, teenage boy with hormones flying around his body.

I'm sure you want to know how I handled this situation. 
First: I freaked out alot a little.  Next, I conviscated the ipod & began changing passcodes & setting restrictions.  Last, my husband sent out a massive text message that read something like this:

Give D a hard time.  It seems he likes porn.

His friends did not disappoint either.  My son's  phone started going off with messages from all of our guy friends asking for new websites to look at and other suggestions he may have for them. I believe someone even mentioned farm animals in their messages.   The kid took it all in stride and laughed with the teasing.  The only line of defense he offered was, "well, at least you know I'm not gay."   I shot back with, "I'm not so sure. There was a really big wiener in one of those screen shots."  He laughed & shrugged it off.

Porn has now been a topic of conversation in our house ever since.  You may not notice it, but if it's a semi-serious topic that is difficult to handle- we joke about it.  Here's the thing though.. I know regardless of the joking and the wishing he wasn't growing up that he's gonna do it.  I know self-exploration is normal & healthy.  Hell, I totally support it because there won't be any grandchildren in my future with that method.   But I also want him to respect women and be able to talk to us about questions.   That regardless of how scarred I am with the realization my son is growing up.. it's happening.  

I found this website to be interesting and helpful.   The entire thing is about talking to your kids about porn.  With the Internet and computers being a staple in every home, it's definitely a part of the sex ed talk.  And when we stop teasing him, I do plan on having a little heart to heart. 

So.. anyone of you peeps have any tips on how to handle this next part of the parenting discussions?

From Mama Kat's prompt 1) Scarred