Monday, November 24, 2014

Winter Formal 2014

Both boys went to their winter formal this weekend. Originally, Andrew wasn't going to attend but at the last minute a friend asked if he would go with her because she found herself without a date.  

I had dreams of snapping a picture with both of my boys dressed in their tuxes, but because of prior obligations I wasn't home when the oldest left to meet his friends.   The good husband he is, Joe went in my place and snapped a few pictures for me.    And because Nathan wasn't leaving for another couple of hours, I didn't even get a shot of just the two boys.   

The pictures I do have are great though.  

This was Nathan's first high school dance.  And it was his first big date with his girlfriend.   He was so cute worrying about if the corsage was going to match and where they were going for dinner.  

I was trying to get a few pictures of just him, but like normal he was not amused or wanting to cooperate.  

And then he saw the girl walk in the front door.  Can you tell a difference in his face?  I think he's a little smitten.    Jolie was playing 20 questions and asked if they'd had their first kiss yet.  Nathan, answered sarcastically with a "No.  We've only dated 4 months."  She believed him and later made the comment that she wondered if Nathan and his date had their first kiss tonight at the dance.  

One boy got home a little before midnight and the other was allowed to stay out until 2 am.  A group of the seniors met up for breakfast afterwards at a house.  It killed me not to have him home earlier, but he's a good kid.  Plus, what's going to happen next year when he's in a dorm?  I can't give him a curfew then.  

Friday, November 21, 2014

Heavier than Heaven-- book review

I jumped at the chance to borrow my friend's copy of this book to read on vacation.

I don't typically read biographies, but every so often I'll find one that sparks my interest.  

Being a teen in the 90s, Nirvana was played often on my radio.  It plays a heavy part in the soundtrack of my youth.  I remember sitting in my room watching the video for "Teen Spirit" for the first time and thinking that these guys? Just get it. They weren't writing silly teeny bopper songs, but knew how hard life was during those hormone filled years.  
There are people who will argue that Nirvana was one of those bands that forever changed the face of music.   I would tend to agree. 
To date- both Nevermind and theirUnplugged  albums are still two of my favorites.   

Which is probably why I enjoyed the book so much.  It was like getting a glimpse into the backstage of Kurt's life during those days. 

The author interviewed the remaining members of the band, Kurt's grandfather, several family members and friends.   All in all, it covers 400 interviews and 4 years of research.  He was given access to Kurt's journals that Courtney Love had held on to all of these years as well as several other collections of their papers stored in trash bags.  It traces the musician's past back to the troubled youth in a double wide trailer to his drug induced haze of rock n roll fame.

Knowing this book was NOT going to have a happy ending made me dread getting to the final chapters.   So much of me wanted to be able to rewrite history so that Kurt never left the mental hospital and never bought the gun.    Several questions were answered, but at the same time I was left with just as many "what-ifs."

If you're a fan of Nirvana, I highly recommend this biography.  It was thoroughly researched and  extremely well-written.  Cross is not only a talented author, but also a fan.  I couldn't put the book down even though I already knew the ending.

I also found this article from Rolling Stone magazine interviewing the author when he released his second book about Cobain and his research into the biography.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

First Loves

I've spent more time than I'd like to admit thinking about the future spouses of my children.  What type of people are they going to fall in love with and welcome into our family.   What kind of marriage will they have-- I'm hoping it will be a happy one filled with love.   I hope they marry someone who will challenge their thinking and make them better people.  My children are wonderful, amazing people.  I want them to find someone to be their partner and deserving of their gifts. 

In order to find their intended mate, they have to date, but the idea of my babies dating terrifies me.  Partially, it's because I know first hand the side effects of teenage dating and difficult a road that can be.  And also because it will involve heart break, but mostly because I don't see them as old enough to be old enough to go to movies alone or parties.  It still feels as if I should be holding their hands to cross the street and getting hand print ornaments from their teachers at Christmas time.  

When I look at my beautiful kids, I see some of the bravest, smartest and kindest people I know.   They make me laugh and drive me crazy on a daily basis.

Sadly, they're growing up and are actually old enough to date. The oldest is more content to have group dates and hang out with friends.  The middle one finally has his first girlfriend.

And as difficult as it is for me to watch my little grow up, these two are the cutest couple I've ever seen.  He has had a crush on her since they met in 6th grade.   They started as friends and she finally agreed to be his girlfriend this year.   The good guy actually got the girl.

Anyone who can make my kid smile like this?  Is pretty okay in my book.